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The ABC's of Friendships

Posted on August 8, 2017 at 4:30 PM Comments comments (0)

Friendships are some of the most important relationships in the lives of human beings.  Two questions that we all should consider are:

1)  What characteristics are vital in cultivating and maintaining wholesome, healthy friendships?

2)  What are the ABC's of Friendships?

Persons that engage in friendships, must first of all, A-accept the Responsibilities of being a Friend.  The Bible says in Proverbs 17:17 (NLT), "A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need."

The second component of a healthy friendship is to B-ehave as a Friend.  The behavior patten between friend's ought to be constructive and not destructive.  1Corinthians 13 gives the ground rules on the behavioral patterns amongst friends:

"Love is patient and kind.  Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  It does not demand its own way.  It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  It does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.  Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstances." (1Cor. 13:4-7 NLT).

The final component of a friendship is to understand The C-onsequences of a Friendship.  In this context, a better word for consequences is, "cultivation."  Like any other relationship, friendships must be cultivated to be maintained and grow.  Friends  should safeguard their relationship as a place of mutual sharing during all seasons--not just take place of comfort during a crisis.



What is Mental Health?

Posted on April 13, 2017 at 5:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Mental Health refers to our cognitive, and /or emotional well-being.  It's all about how we think, feel, and behave, as well as having the ability to make sound and logical decisions.  Mental Health also describes an absence of a mental disorder.  Another important component to mental helath, is spiritual health.  Spiritual Health and Mental Health work together in harmony.  Knowing who you are and whose you are, are the keys of balancing Mental Health.  Remember the following:

1.  You are Fearfully and Wonderfully Made.

2.  You are more than a conquer.

3.  You are a child of the Most High God.

4.  When life situations or stressors appear to be overwhelming, do not hesitate, do not be aftaid, do not be prideful to seek help.

"If you don't know who to call, call EVOLVE!"  931.905.2200 or email evolvetbcc@gmail.com

4 Steps Towards a Peaceful Life

Posted on March 6, 2017 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)
A life of peace is an attainable goal. God promised that "if we keep our minds stayed on Him, He will keep us in perfect peace" (Ref: Isaiah 26:3). Unfortunately, we miss our appointments with peace because of the disruptive interference caused by daily routines and rituals. Our society teaches that to have peace we must buy-in to having and going. While the Bible teaches us, that peace comes from being and knowing. The world's messages of quicker, faster, bigger, and better have infiltrated our souls until we have achieved the opposite of peace, chaos. The life of a believer is to trust that The Holy Spirit gives us directions to the path of peace. Here are four steps believers can take to move toward a life of peace: 1. Pray. The best time to pray is early in the morning. This recommendation serves to anchor your spirit before the minutia of the day comes to steal your time with God. Psalm 5:3 declares " My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O LORD; in the morning, will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up." Prayer is the way to peace. In prayer, we have permission to "cast our cares" and bare our souls to God (1 Peter 5:7). By releasing what concerns us to the Almighty Father, He obligates himself to build a blockade against anything that will cause us worry, stress and harm. 2. Practice Gratitude. God is good to us all the time. Just this thought alone is enough to carry an attitude of gratitude. Gratitude is being happy and thankful that God is carrying us all day long. He is involved in all facets of our lives. When we are grateful to God, our attitude towards others result in empathy and compassion. Gratitude leads to peace because we are content in our current state. Colossians 3:15 encourages us, "And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful"(Colossians 3:15). 3. Protect Your Time. "Six days you shall work, but on the seventh day you shall rest. In plowing time and harvest you shall rest"(Exodus 34:21). Resting is not an option; it is a command. Sadly, it is a command we often ignore. We believe that resting is equated to being lazy. The world says "do" but the spirit says "be." Being still creates a life of peace. By taking time to unplug from technology and limit our commitments, diverts energy back to the source of all creation, God. Learn to say no graciously. You will see how peace will develop when you fill your calendar with activities The Holy Spirit directs you to. 4. Profess Peace. Proclaim over your live that you will live in peace. Living in peace is a decision. You will have what you say. Recite scriptures such as Matthew 5:9 "Blessed are the peace makers...." Or Philippians 4:7, "and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding...", try Proverbs 12:20 "those who promote peace shall have joy." Your spoken word is powerful. By professing with your mouth, you trigger the behavior to follow. And you shall have peace! Selah.

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

Posted on February 7, 2017 at 5:45 PM Comments comments (0)

More than 1 out of 10 teens who have been on a date have also been physically abused by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the last year.  Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month is a national effort to raise awareness and protect teens from violence.  We can use this month to raise awareness about teen dating violence and take action toward a solution- both at home and in our communities.  Let's break the cycle of unhealthy relationships by using social media like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to bring awareness during the month of February.

Dating Rules:

1.  Agree on an appropriate age to start dating

2.  Don't allow your teen to date older persons

3.  Set boundaries

4.  Meet the date prior to the first date

5.  Build a strong parent-child relationship

6.  Help your teen with developing a positive self-image and leadership skills

7.  Establish curfews and approved dating activities with your teen

8.  Talk about sex

9.  Discuss avoiding sexually stimulating movies, TV shows, and videos

10. It is NEVER ok to hurt the one you care about (emotional/physical)

4 Ways to LIVE after the Christmas Season

Posted on January 31, 2017 at 5:25 PM Comments comments (0)

Ok, the Holiday Season is over.  Well, at least until next year.  Just as some have holiday blues, others have post-holiday blues.  The Hustle and bustle, parties, carols, good will toward men, lights and action is gone and life is back to the everyday hum.  What's a person to do?

1.  Remember, Jesus came so that we could have life and have life more abundantly.  That truth extends beyond the month of December.  Miss the excitement?  Make your own.  Plan an exciting event, getaway or dinner.  It will give you and others something to look forward to and motivate you throught he month.

2.  Renew and revitalize with a cleansing fast paired with personal prayer.  There is no obligation to drag your old bags into the new year.  Take this month to re-organize, re-prioritize and reset for the new year.

3.  Re-focus your mental energy.  Make a list of those friends and family members, or those on the sick and shut in list and commit to sending a note, a card or an encouraging word to each during this month.

4.  Re-commit to be the best you ever.  Refresh or learn a new skill, or language.  Discover your God given spiritual gifts and earthly talents.  Take a singing lesson, art class, learn how to use a new app or program.

We are continually made new in Christ Jesus!  Make a conscious effort to Let go of 2016 and align with what God has for you in 2017.

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The Holiday Blues....

Posted on November 1, 2016 at 4:10 PM Comments comments (0)


Do you know what time it is? It's that time of the year called "the holidays". It's a time of great joy and celebration. Yet, it's also a time where many feel more lonely, grief stricken and depressed than at other times.

We call it the holiday blues! As we anticipate food, family and fun activities, those without family, friends or funds can feel dread, anger, resentment that boils over into conflict, guilt, arguments, and irritability.

Warning Signs- Holiday Blues

-Unexplained feelings of Stress

- Frequent Headaches

- poor sleep

-sadness

- lack of enjoyment

- anxiety

What to do?

A=Awareness: Be aware of your needs during these busy months. Take time for self rejuvenation, reflection on the true meaning of the Holidays

 

B=Be prepared to say "no". Prioritize. You don't have to accept every invitation. You don't have to give everyone a gift, or cook the entire meal by yourself, or...(fill in the blank)

 

C=Calm expectations. You are not obligated to the expectations of others.

 

Need More advice? See an EVOLVE team member for confidential support. We have certified Peer Counselors; Marriage and Family Counselors, Licensed Social Workers, Case managements, Pastoral Counselors, psychiatrists to aid you. 931-905-2200

 

 

 

 

Speak Up. Be Part of the Solution

Posted on October 18, 2016 at 4:50 PM Comments comments (0)

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion or nationality.  In America, one woman is fatally shot by a spouse, ex-spouse or dating partner every 14hours.  Domesic violence gun related fatalities since January 1, 2016 has soared to a gurgling 476 unnecessary deaths.  What is Domestic violence?  Domestic violence is a crime of willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another.  It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence and emotional abuse.  Domestic violence is never OKAY.  No one deserves to be abused and anyone can be a victim.  It is important to be aware of the signs of an abuser.  Some red flags and risk factors include:

*Berating behavior, Marital or Family problems, Financial problems, Coercive control, Intimidating behavior, Stalking, Increase in individual/family/job stress, Poor coping skills, Alcohol or drug abuse

SPEAK UP. BE PART OF THE SOLUTION.

Simple actions can help protect victims.  Have the courage to speak up and do the right thing.  Take a stand to stop domestic violence and keep our community safe.

I am confused, scared, etc. who do I call for support?

Clarksville Domestic Violence Unit:  (931) 221-1180 or (931) 221-1181

National Domestic Violence:  1-800-799-7233(SAFE)

EVOLVE:  Elder Dr. Elizabeth Pritchett-Dixon at evolvetbcc@gmail.com or call (931) 905-2200


Never Give Up!

Posted on September 22, 2016 at 3:10 PM Comments comments (0)

Motor vehicle accidents were the leading cause of injury deaths for people in Tennessee.  According to a CDC report in 2008, suicides offiially entered the top 10 leading causes of death in the United States.  Suicide rates among males are four times higher than for females in Tennessee.  In 2014, suicide rates in Tennessee have increased within the ages of 45-54 with their rates being more than five times than teens.  As of 2014, suicide is the third leading cause of death for young people between the ages of 10-19 age group.  Montgomery county ranked 6th out of 95 counties with the highest recorded and reported deaths by suicide in 2014.  Since 2014, suicide deaths have decreased in Tennessee, but Tennessee is above the National average with deaths by suicide.

How do I find Help?    Suicided Prevention Help:  1-800-273-8255 or call EVOLVE:  Elder Dr. Elizabeth Pritchett-Dixon at evolvetbcc@gmail.com

TN Lives Count! Never Give Up!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 

Manage Your Bullies

Posted on August 11, 2016 at 6:00 PM Comments comments (0)

EVOLVE Monthly Momentum for August 2016

BULLYING

As our children prepare for another school year, it is important that we as parents are educated on bullying and what to do if we suspect our child has become victim to this terrible form of abuse. We must also educate our children on what bullying is and what to do if they encounter a bully.

WHAT IS BULLYING?

Bullying is aggressive behavior that is intentional. It can be physical or verbal aggression that can take the form of insults, teasing, shoving, hitting and other intimidating and hurtful behavior. Bullying is assault. Cyber bullying is when a child or teenager is harassed, humiliated, embarrassed, threatened or tormented using digital technology. Cyber bullying can only happen between minors. When an adult is harassing children or teenagers, it is known as cyber harassment or cyber stalking.

BULLYING STATISTICS

The American Justice Department bullying statistics show that 1 out of every 4 kids will be bullied sometime throughout their adolescence. 46% males and 26% females have admitted to being victims in physical fights as reported in one report of bullying statistics by the Bureau of Justice School. About 58% of kids and teens have reported that something mean has been said about them or to them online. Other bullying statistics show that about 77% of students admitted to being the victim of one type of bullying or another.

SIGNS OF BULLYING

*Not wanting to go to school

*Complaints of stomachaches or headaches

*Anxiety

*Sadness

*Lack of self-esteem

*Sudden drop in school performance

*Trouble sleeping and eating

*Sudden aggressive behavior or displays of temper

*Conflict with siblings or playmates

*Repeated loss of or damage to personal items

*Unexplained injuries

7 WAYS TO PREVENT/STOP BULLYING

1. Stay connected with your child.

a. Talk with your child every day about specifics at school and extracurricular activities.

2. Explain to your child what bullying is.

3. Tell your child what to do in case he/she experiences or witnesses bullying.

a. Alert a teacher or parents right away of bullying behavior.

4. Teach your child the importance of empathy.

5. Set a good example.

6. Look for warning signs that your child may be the victim of bullying.

7. Talk to your child’s school about what teachers can do and about effective programs that are being used by school to deter bullying.

You can also talk with your child’s pediatrician about bullying and go to stopbullying.gov for other resources and helpful information.

 


What's holding you back?

Posted on May 24, 2016 at 5:40 PM Comments comments (0)

Life will sometimes throw us a curve ball that we aren't prepared to catch, but if we keep our focus on what's important we will be better prepared for those curve balls.  We must learn how to use our trying times as motivation to keep pushing toward's the goal.  We must learn strategies that will help aid us in moving forward.  What will you do to move forward?  What will you do to evolve?


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